Growth is painful. Change is painful.But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong.

—Mandy Hale (via onlinecounsellingcollege)


I have a question to ask of you all real quick. I generally wear my binder 12+ hours a day, and my friends tell me I should cut back on that amount of time. I’ve heard different things about the amount of time I should wear my binder in a day, and I was wondering if anybody had a solid answer to give me on this issue.

You shouldn’t wear your binder for more than 8 hours a day but as someone who wears their binder 12+ hours a day, I understand.


Somebody sent me an ask about why I’m considering going off Testosterone. For some reason the tumblr app on my phone deleted the message so I’ll just post my response here:

A few reasons. One is that I don’t want to lose my hair (shallow reason i know lol but it’s very important to me). Another…

Wishing you the best of luck.

Anonymous asked: Hi! I'm the anon that was talking to 'ihatecispeople' that had two ftm friends (so you can tell who I am). And I noticed your comments? It's just kind of weird that it would make me so much cooler if I were trans. I don't see what's wrong with being comfortable with what I am. Isn't that what most people want? Transgendered shouldn't be a fad or a trend! Also I will continue to use ftm because my friends told me that's what they are. uwu


  • theres nothing wrong with being cis but trans is cooler
  • dont use transgendered as an adjective. dont use transgendered. what you were looking for here is “being trans(gender) shouldnt blah blah”
  • why not…. being trans is a cool fun trend i think you would enjoy. pls dont listen to tru//scum who say stuff like “transtrenders” etc theyre a bad influence on the community imo
  • take the time out to explore your gender ok? like. ignoring all ive said before just look deep inside. try on a few different pronouns/genders while looking in the mirror. challenge cisness. if u still think ur cis after that then cool 



Starting workouts with my roommate today

Do you workout with or without your binder?

I work out with my binder on, but that’s because I also work out at my school’s rec center.







"I wasn’t sure about T, that’s why I just started on a very low dose"

wtf is wrong with you

I wonder if this is a post of mine on a FTM group, but for 1. Not all of us who want to start T can say whether it’s what we need to do in our…

My hesitations have nothing to do with being wary of T, but the social transition aspects of it. I know how I want to be perceived by the world and how I want my body to be so I can be comfortable.

I understand being hesitant about starting testosterone. However, that being said, before getting on testosterone(whether it be low dose or not), you need to figure out WHY you are hesitant. Is it a fear of regret ? Is it because you are unsure of who you really are ? Is it because it is all happening too fast ? These are questions that many of these people who just “tried” testosterone, failed to ask. Sure, some of them realize it is the right decision for them and up the dosage. However, from what I have observed, the majority who tend to have doubts usually continue to have doubts and they usually stop and de-transition. That doesn’t make them bad or evil, it just means they were confused about who they were and didn’t ask themselves questions before starting testosterone. One question that I feel is important to ask before starting and anyone who is questioning who they are is: Can you see yourself living the rest of your life as a man or as a woman ? 

I’ve spent the last 6 months asking myself the hard questions: Am I just ashamed to be a masculine female?, Am I just trying to fit in?, Do I really have dysphoria? Why do I want to transition?. I didn’t get into this all willy nilly. I spent 10 years trying to understand why I couldn’t just be a regular girl or a tomboy. I have an issue with seeing myself in the future, which is why the question of how I see myself in the future has really been difficult. I can’t see myself and what I”ll be doing, whether I’ll have a family, etc. I know I shouldn’t have been born female. I’ve known this since I was young. Maybe I shouldn’t have said “gender identity”, but a label for how I feel because I feel too inadequate to call myself a man because I’m very early in transition and that’s something that’s me. 

If you feel you are too inadequate to call yourself a man because your too early in transition, that is why I say you should give this some more thought. Being a man, being a male for me wasn’t something that was based on how far I am in transition. It was who I am before transition and many other guys feel the same why.

Another question you should ask, why is it that you don’t feel female ? What does feeling female feel like ? Could how you’re feeling be based on how society may perceive you ? 

I also want to clarify that while social dysphoria plays a role in those diagnosed with Gender Dysphoria(formerly GID), it is important to know that social dysphoria alone cannot be a contributing factor as to whether or not a person is suffering from GD. Social dysphoria may potentially be caused by other things non-related to GD or may be confused by another condition all together.

I wish you had an inbox so I can message you, but yeah, I’ve gone through this.Since I was 8, I’ve always felt as though I should have been born with a penis. I remember thinking that if I could just wake up with a penis, I could deal with my chest later (which baffles me now because I certainly didn’t know about transitioning then). As far as I know, I only suffer from social anxiety, but it could be something else. You and OP definitely bring up good points. I just don’t want other trans people viewing me as a “transtrender” or whatever. 

LMAO! The ad doesn’t sound good at all, but jesus christ the response!

(Source: milotlc)

Why are the downsides never discussed?

If you go into the FTM tag, you’ll see a lot of selfies and gofundme pages. Aside that, you find information about people who have had top surgery and started hormones, which is great. But throughout this information, why are the “heavier” things not discussed. Some of these “heavier” things include the following: 

Social Transition/Socialization: After being socialized as a female or male and being called by those pronouns and your birth name, it’s not always for you or anyone else easy to switch. Granted, if you have a gender neutral name/nickname, it makes it easier, but for those of us with blatantly female or male names to switch. I remember asking the question as to whether it felt weird at first when people called you by your preferred pronouns and I had many people say that yes, they had to adjust, especially those who were older teens/early 20’s. While this isn’t applicable for everyone, be aware that this is a possibility. 

Transitioning doesn’t necessarily “cure” your dysphoria: If you read some people’s blogs or watch some YouTube videos,  you’ll find that they mention that their dysphoria moved elsewhere. While they might have been dysphoric most in their chest, when their chest was removed, they found the dysphoria appeared elsewhere. I also recently read a post about a person someone knew who had bottom surgery and found their dysphoria went elsewhere (though I wonder how much of that is body image issues also). Realize transition isn’t necessarily the “cure” to your dysphoria. It merely manages it. 

Health Risks of Testosterone/Estrogen: Seeing as I’m not going on Estrogen, I’d advise you to talk to a MTF if you want to know risks, but realize that based on your health history, race, and dietary habits, you’ll be more at risk for certain diseases than others when you begin taking testosterone. I know every clinic/therapist is different, but my therapist also happened to be my hormone advocate so she gave me the packet of information about testosterone, what it would do, the timeline of the changes, along with the risks (high, medium, low) that have been reported and studied. We discussed it in my next appointment to clear up any questions I had, and proceeded from there. Don’t glance over this as it’s really important to know what you yourself may be at risk for with your family history and how you can keep them from coming to fruition. 

If you all have anything you want to add to the list or have a comment, feel free to let me know



  • not be mentally ill
  • have good grades
  • to dislike reading
  • have a happy family
  • enjoy exercising/not enjoy exercising
  • to have different opinion
  • to reblog/not reblog certain posts
  • to be a gay white boy
  • to be a straight white boy
  • to be a bisexual white girl
  • (to be any race/gender/sexual orientation)
  • to not like porn
  • to not ship destiel
  • to not be in a fandom
  • to be in a happy relationship

I feel like people on Tumblr need to find a chill pill…